Choosing What Matters
I took a new approach to New Years Resolutions this year and decided that instead of a checklist of to do’s, I would choose 3 areas of priority for the year. My areas are:
My novel: write, write, write
Love and relationships: prioritizing love and taking more risks in relationships
Health and fitness: daily dedication to feeling my best
This doesn’t mean I don’t care about other parts of my life (friends, family, career, etc), but it means that these three buckets are the areas that get my best effort, my biggest leaps and tries, my courageous steps and my final push when I can’t do it anymore. It’s why I wake up at 6:45 am and walk in 10 degrees to the gym. It’s why I go away for a weekend with an ex to talk things out and see if we might have a second chance at forever. It’s why I write a book even though I’ve never written a book before. One unknown word after another after another.
What’s cool is that it has made the focus for the year so clear. Every day, I put love, effort, time and intention into the book, love and health. An unexpected benefit is that I care less about things that normally would rattle me. When I took a pretty painful financial hit in January, I just said to myself, “if this was the year of money, that sure would suck. But it’s not the year of money, so let it go.” And I did.
You don’t have to wait until next January to set a few focus areas for your year. Maybe you want to focus on self love and self care? That’s totally a focus area. Or maybe you want to make your house a home and do some major decorating and cleaning out the clutter? That’s a focus area. Whatever it is, choosing a few focus areas and putting your best intentions and efforts into those can be such a clear, consistent and rewarding way to move through the year.